Let’s talk about your brain for a hot minute.

Your brain is powerful AF.

Other than keeping you awake in the most inconvenient hours of the evening thinking about what email you forgot to send before you left the office, a silly argument you had with a roommate back in 2006, if your 401k plan is really making the most of your investments (cause I still am trying to figure that sh*t out), and most importantly how the hell you’re going to afford to buy your dream condo one day soon.

It’s…A.LOT. I’ve been a victim of this vicious 12 am cycle (too many times) all while calculating how many hours of sleep I’m going to get if I am capable of convincing my brain to shut off within the next 20 minutes.

Mind chatter is consuming. So consuming that we are not even aware we’re doing it. I’m still working on it to this day. But have you ever taken a second to really think about your mind?

Follow me with this one…How did you end up on a level 12 incline to the top of distressed mountain all while laying in your Egyptian cotton sheets at 11:34 pm? You packed your thoughts and walked your worried ass up there. FOR REAL THO. We overanalyze our work challenges, money situations, relationship hardships (and everything else under the sun that could possibly give us the scaries) to the point of no return. In the big scheme of things, we’re the ones running the show. You choose to think your thoughts.

Sounds silly. But it’s 100% true. You choose what you believe to be the truth. I’ve caught myself in the rabbit hole of what if’s, but ever since I’ve applied the theory of ‘you attract what you exude’ to my life, miracles have taken place. If I’m constantly worried about not having enough x (money, love, a game plan for my life, insert any other worry you may have here) then I’m telling the universe that I’m essentially doubting that it will find it’s way to me. As I’m sure many have felt the domino effect of a bad day (bad thing after bad thing after even worse thing happens) you’re trapped in the mindset that the day is complete sh*t and that the world is against you.

UNTRUE. Although some situations are complete dumpster fires, and beyond our control, we’re still being tested. I like to look at these situations as blessings in disguise and challenge myself to frame the situation in a way that’s less taxing on my mental state by implementing these helpful shifts into my daily routine:

1. Rewrite your beliefs. Physically, write those bad boys down if it helps (ex. I’m not smart enough to take the new job, I’m not pretty enough to pursue modeling, I’m not skinny enough to date a guy like him). These were instilled in us in our childhood experiences based upon the interactions we had with others. We were pure perfect bundles of joy out the womb, then when we finally could feed ourselves not only fish sticks (sorry mom), we also started feeding ourselves the beliefs we’ve picked up from our environment and the people in it. Don’t worry, it’s not too late to change some of these. More than half the time we don’t even realize we’ve been lugging them around this long. The second we decide that these are not our truth, and that our goals are attainable and are in fact within reach and awaiting us, that’s when the real magic happens. Believing that you have these gifts from the universe already, and reciprocating gratefulness– this is when you are in full swing to your true self. Everything you want and need exists and is available to you. Envision this and watch it manifest in front of you. Promise you that.

2. Surround yourself with people who think the way you want to think. As my old man has always told me, ” you are who you hang with”. At 19, I thought this saying was silly…I’m nothing like my bestfriend who just did a keg stand at her grandmothers birthday party. Am I? I didn’t understand it, but it’s absolutely true. If you want to not only shift your mind, you may need to shift the company you keep. Saturate your life with big dreamers, positivity sharers, and action taking junkies (like you). Don’t know any? Cool, go out there and make some new friends while learning some cool sh*t about something that makes your cells dance. You never know who you’ll network/meet, the universe has your back on this one too.

3. Love yourself. Look in the mirror and legit tell yourself that you love yourself. Sounds hella weird (and will definitely feel strange when you do it) but affirmations are the key to shifting your thought process aka your life. Now don’t just say things to say em’, say it and actually mean it. It doesn’t work unless you’re willing to work too. Surrender your regrets, fears and anything else you have stuck inside that bowl of knowledge of yours. Take yourself on dates, do things that you enjoy doing, upkeep your health and treat your body like a sanctuary. Because it is. There is only one of you, ever. Don’t steal the beauty out of who you are based on comparison to others. All paths are not the same, we each have our own niche and that’s what makes the world such a beautiful f*cking place. Relish in who you are, there will never be another soul like yours so you may as well continue to spread your light. Plus, if you don’t have your own back, who will? Bring out the self loving Kanye inside of you. I know he’s in there.

We live in a world where we must constantly see something in order to believe it. We’ve got this all half ass backwards. We must believe it in order to see it. Take a moment to silence the yammering in your brain and acknowledge all of the beauty around you in this very moment (the air on your skin, the ability to see with your eyeballs, the birds chirping outside). None of it was, or is a coincidence. We spend so much time fixating on the future as well as the past, that we are not able to enjoy the miracles currently unfolding in the present moment. The more time you do spend bring present, the more these gifts from the universe appear. As the brilliant Jen Sincero has said, “Our entire experience on this planet is determined by how we choose to perceive our reality.” How true is that? If you also need some help kicking your perception into shape, pick up her book “You are a Badass”. If the name doesn’t already speak for itself, the book alone has changed my life and has a permanent spot on my nightstand when I need a lil’ pick me up.

Continue to make your brain your bitch. You are worthy and capable of all your dreams, hopes and desires. Shift your mind, trust that you are in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing and that everything you’ve ever wanted is on it’s way to you.

 

Sending love and light to all of those who are strong enough to swim against the current of self sabotage and into the abundance of the universe. You’re a badass.

 

x katlyn