I have a lot of really smoking hot girlfriends. No, I’m not here to brag, but let me tell you— these girls are 12.5’s. They are salt to the earth, intelligent, thoughtful, undeniably hilarious, and to top it off, they’re the definition of a California dime piece. I’m honored to be in their corner to encourage them, inspire them, and most importantly laugh (and sometimes cry) with them. Hell, I would rip a b*tch out of her car window if she was to disrespect any of my girls. (Sorry, mom)

 
Although each of these girls bring something unique to the table, including myself, there’s a trending topic that has flooded all areas of our lives and the constant conversations…worthiness. The word makes me feel like it’s too simple to understand, yet somehow it can be interchangeably used to describe why we don’t go after all the sh*t we want in life.

 

Person A: “Yes, I believe I’m worthy of more money and abundance” (doesn’t ask for raise because it feels like they are asking for too much)

 

Person B: “Yes, I am worthy of a great partner who is consistent in wanting to spend time with me” (ends up dating emotionally unavailable significant other who falls of the face of the earth for 5 days at a time)

 

Sound familiar? I’ve definitely experienced both of these scenarios and have walked hand in hand with my girlfriends in similar situations. Funny thing is, I was claiming I was worthy of the things I wanted, but when push came to shove, I was backing down the second I had to make these boundaries known because of FEAR. I believe in order for the whole ‘worthiness’ word to work, you need to back it up with some action. Believe it so much that you have no other choice than to teach others how to treat you.

 

How do you do that, Katlyn?

Simple.

• Believe it, and then see it. We’ve got this whole ‘believe when you see it’ backwards. You actually have to visualize it, whether it’s the money or the relationship, etc. Try it on, act as if it’s already yours, envision what it would feel like, and know that things are always working out in your favor. Be so certain that it’s happening in the perfect time, unfolding in ways even you couldn’t imagine. Look at all the badass coincidences that have already happened thus far, you created ALL that. Your powerful beliefs brought you all the way to where you are currently standing.

• Put some pimp in yo’ step. Or is it pep? I like pimp better. Regardless, start workin’ towards goals that honor all the things you believe you are worthy of. Ask for what you want, because if you don’t ask you won’t know if it’s available to you. At least once a day, try slappin’ your fear around a little bit. Engage in a conversation with a stranger at the grocery store, tell your boyfriend you feel like you’re outgrowing each other (if that’s how you feel), jump out of an airplane (with a parachute preferably), or even have a real conversation with yourself about why you hate going to your desk job everyday and what you’re going to do to change it, whatever it is…DO IT. One thing is always guaranteed, you will be rewarded.

• The naysayer will always be the delayer. If I have done anything right in my life, it is accepting that I don’t have to include people in my life that do not align with my growth. If anyone makes you feel like this is hard, they ain’t for you. I wholeheartedly commit to supporting my girls in every endeavor they wish to conquer. If one of them told me they wanted to race Clydesdales on Mars with a full execution game plan of how this could be physically possible, I’d be the first to order team t-shirts and start budgeting to buy my ticket on a rocket ship. Surround yourself with those people. Anyone who isn’t in your corner, or is in your corner when it’s convenient for them, isn’t worthy of witnessing the magical homestretch to all you deserve.

 
I hope you all know how truly worthy you are. 

xx katlyn